Project no.191

Please Don't Leave Me

Exhibition Curators: Dr. Lilac Abramsky-Arazi

Dr. Asaf Rolef Ben-Shahar

Chief Curator: Rachel Sukman

Opening: Thursday, 27 July 2017, 7:30 p.m.
Closing: Friday, 25 Augost 2017, 14 p.m.


Artists: Adi Hoffman – Ayala Netzer – Lilac Abramsky-Arazi – Reuma Zoher Chayot –

Shai Pardo – Sharon Rashbam Prop – Yoav Efrati – Yonatan Levy

6 Zamenhoff St. , Tel Aviv, tel.: 03-5254191
Gallery hours: Mon.- Thurs. 11a.m - 6p.m.; Fri. 11a.m.- 2p.m.




Yoav Efrati, untitled,2016
pencil on paper
29.7X21 cm

Yoav Efrati, untitled,2016
pencil on paper
29.7X21 cm

Sharon Rashbam Prop, Near, 2010
Oil on canvas
100X100 cm

Sharon Rashbam Prop, Boycott, 2010
Oil on canvas
100X100 cm

Ayala Netzer, Scouts , 2013
coloured pens on paper
21X29.7 cm

Ayala Netzer, Good morning to all educators, 2016
digital painting on archive paper
30X50 cm

Adi T. Hoffman, Untitled, 2012
charcoal on paper
35X35 cm

Adi T. Hoffman, Untitled, 2012
Oil on canvas
120X120 cm

Shai Pardo, untitled, 2010
Drawing on canvas
40X50 cm

Shai Pardo, untitled, 2008
Drawing on canvas
40X40 cm

Yonatan Levy, Get a better mirror, 2013
Oil and spray paint on canvas
50X38 cm

Yonatan Levy, Untitled, 2011
pencils and acrylic on paper
59X49 cm

Reuma Zoher Chayot,hooked, 2013
15X18 cm

Reuma Zoher Chayot,Lily, 2013
18.5X16 cm

Lilac Abramsky-Arazi, recover love, 2015
Acrylic on canvas
70X95 cm

Lilac Abramsky-Arazi, hurting, 2015
Acrylic on canvas
71X93 cm

please don't leave me

I love you.

I cannot breathe without you.

Don't go.

Never stop loving me.

I don't even know who I am without you.


I need you.

I need you.

We don't like neediness and dependency. Helplessness and weakness threaten us. We seek connections and are ashamed of not being able to be on our own. We get angry with ourselves and with the other for needing them so much.

For decades, psychology perceived the ‘proper developmental direction' as transitioning from symbiosis and dependency to independence. Margaret Mahler (1967) termed this process “separation individuation.” Grow up, stand on your own two feet. Need nobody. Symbiosis and neediness were perceived as signs of weakness and regression. The mature person was by him or herself. Choosing to enter a relationship, but not needing it. Our lives were not dependent on the other person.

During the last three decades, particularly influenced by relational psychoanalysis, something is beginning to change. There is a turn in the way dependency, neediness, and symbiosis are seen. Today, researchers and therapists believe that alongside the dependency-independence developmental axis, there is another one, just as important – from dependency to the capacity to surrender to connection, to need, to form mutual dependency (Benjamin, 1990; Pizer, 2012). The capacity to stand independently is not the only measure of maturity and happiness. I am also required to allow someone else in. Deeply so, under the skin. I am called to need, and be afraid, and connect, and be confused, and get lost.

But even if modern psychology finally validates it, dependency is the scariest and most dangerous and threatening thing in the world. You can die from it, or go crazy. The art in this exhibition was created out

of dependency. And neediness. And a torn heart.